About dealing with the reality during your manifestation journey

I want to share my opinions about how to deal with the reality during your manifestation journey, especially if you experience things or see people that trigger you.

When we learn about the law of assumption, write our affirmations, and begin the journey of manifestation, consciously or subconsiously, I am sure all of us want our manifestations to come true instantly;). Well, as you get better and better at applying the law of assumption-related techniques, your manifestations can ABSOLUTELY come true very quickly;). But what if you see things that contradict your affirmations, and trigger you? And as a result, you begin to doubt your affirmations? In other words, what do you deal with triggers? I wanna share my personal views on this.

Some folks at the law of assumption community say things like: “How to deal with triggers in the reality? Well, it’s simple. Everything in the reality is casused by you, especially your mindset;). So, just change your mindset consistently, and things in your real life will change as well”. Well…yes, but no…It’s true that some things in our life happen due to our repeated, dominat beliefs on them. But sometimes, bad things just happen, and it’s not our fault. We don’t have to believe everything happens for a reason. We are the masters in our life, and we get to assign meanings to things/people in our life. From one hand, I firmly believe the victim mentality is harmful, and we have to take responsibility for our own beliefs and behaviors for most of the time. For people who practice the law of assumption, we should especially know the importance of thinking in our favor, repeating our affirmations daily, and countering negative thoughts as often as we can do. But from another perspective, I don’t think it’s that helpful to simply tell people “you are the cause of everything in your life. Bad things happen? Just change your thought, and move on.” Saying things like this is unfair, and problematic for marginalized people (e.g. working-class folks, people born with certain severe health issues, LGBTQ ppl, and racially & nationally opressed ppl, etc) who have already been traumatized by a deeply unjust system. We don’t simply tell women and girls who have been through sexual violence, trans/non-binary ppl who have been denied educational, housing, and work opportunities, and nationally opressed ppl who live in war-zones “Just change your thought. Be consistent. Your circumstances do not matter”… I personally don’t think such a view is right.

So, how to deal with triggers in the reality? Here are my opinions.

Firstly, most negative things only affect us negatively if we react to them! Repeat after me: Most neagtive things only affect me negatively if I react to them! I cannot emphasize this often enough. We have to discipline our minds as always. And when unfavorable things happen, instead of reacting to them immediately, our 1st instinct should be: Ha! That’s nothing. It does not affect me. At the end of the day, my affirmations are the realiest reality out there! I always get my affirmations regardless of external circumstances;). And then, discipline our minds to try not think about the negative events. One key element of being consistent with our affirmations means that regardless of how we feel and what we see, we keep repeating our affirmations, and do not go back to the old story mentally. If the triggers are caused by random strangers, well, ignore them totally. You are not gonna see them again;). What if the trigger happens because someone does things in contrary to your affirmation? For example, you want to manifest better relationship with your daughter. You repeat your affirmations regularly for three days, but still, your daughter gets angry easily, and hasn’t changed yet. If your daughter gets angry and tries to start fight with you, you can smile to her, ignore her, and tell her to calm down assertively. While you do this, mentally, you tell yourself: That did not happen. My daughter has changed. She has a good temper, and we get along with each other well, and then leave her alone.

Furthermore, although I emphasize the importance of being consistent with our affirmations and do not react to negative events in the last paragraph, still, we gonna be realistic, and judge things and behave on a case-by-case situation. If strangers are being a little annoying or your loved ones say or do things that upset you, in most cases, just do not react to them emotionally and go back to your affirmations. However, we all have principles and boundaries. If people do things that way across our boundaries (e.g., spread bad rumors about us intentionally, or isolate us at workplace), we have to stand up for ourselves and fight back!! After we fight back and prove our worths, definitely do a new affirmation to affirm that things always work out well for us, and the unfavorable people have already gone, etc.

Another thing about doing our affirmations while living in the physical reality is: it’s ok to get a little obsessed with your affirmations, and repeat them often, and counter any negative thoughts daily, but please, don’t get too obsessed with your affirmations to the point of being totally detached from the physical world;). Don’t do things like stay in your room everyday just to repeat your affirmations hours for hours…Well, if you have much free time on weekends, you can spend longer time (1-1.5 hours) highly concentrating on your desires and wants. That’s totally fine. But don’t forget to interact with the outside world, and continue to do things that you love. Don’t give up on social events and your priorities! Go out and have fun! Enjoy your life! As long as you keep thinking in your favor, repeating your affirmations daily, and countering negativity as often as you can, you are doing everything right. Go outside and enjoy your life. You will attract the people and circumstances that favor you in the outside world during your manifetation journey;). Speaking from my experience, after I actively practiced the law of assumption for a little over one month and visited my relatives after not seeing them for 20 days, they told me I appeared taller, my skin looked better, I looked more attractive in general, and I also behaved more energetically than my old self;). I did not even affirm for better physical appearance at that time;). Friends and strangers also told me I appeared more happy with a more positive vibe…Not to mention, my manifetations also came true. So, practice your affirmations, and go out and have fun;).